If you're divorced as a lady and probably living with your kids beware of these single men who come at you pretending to want to marry you

It's very hard for a man who has never married to make such a choice. Put the litmus test ahead: don't give him money and don't give him sex. You'll realise most of such boys just wanted to use you. If he passes the test well and good but you must make sure you're not just a mother figure. You want a man you can think at the same level and build a life jointly.

But a single lady not previously married can marry a divorced man if she is already midlife and perhaps she never wanted to get kids or add any more than what she has now, and since the man may already have children there is a perfect convergence of needs.

The first rule for dating after divorce to avoid being wasted and exploited is to always date people who are where you are in life. Avoid someone dating you and feeling like they're doing you a favor because you have a past they never had and so treating you with a subtle condescension.